Tuesday, March 29, 2011

An Exception for Sam

Fair warning: this post is probably more for me than it is for you. Please forgive indulgences.

I don't really blog anymore. Heather's just so darn good at it that I leave it in her capable hands. :)

But I decided today might be worth an exception.

A year ago today my oldest sister Sam passed away. A couple days ago I finished a book called Making Toast, a true story about another family who also lost someone suddenly (I highly recommend it by the way).

I related to a lot of it, but particularly to this passage:

"Odd that I seem to know Amy more completely in death than I did when she was alive . . . there was so much to her life that I was unaware of until now, when I speak with her friends and colleagues and learn of this sound decision or of that small gesture of thoughtfulness."

That's exactly how I feel about Sam. I'm amazed by the impact she had on others' lives and extremely honored to call her my sister. My only regret is that I didn't take the time to know more of her goodness while I still had the chance to tell her how much I look up to her.

Over the past year I've tried my best to make sure the same thing doesn't happen with any of my other siblings. There's still so much to learn, but the deeper relationships I already have with each of them make me happy.

So, in tribute to Sam, here's one (of many) reason why I look up to each of them:

Matt: he talks openly to me about his feelings and emotions and lets me talk to him about mine.
Rach: she's one of the best mothers i know. she cares deeply about her family and makes the tough sacrifices to care for their well-being in the most meaningful of ways.
Alex: he proactively provides me with regular opportunities to develop relationships with his kids.
Luke: he values my opinions and is always content to listen to them before he shares his own.
Heber: he's willing to take risks and forge his own path through life.

I hope I have many more years to learn even more reasons.

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

It's been a while



Since the Fab 4 hung out. A long while. I spent some time in Utah (sans the husb) for some much enjoyable family time, a baptism for my niece Marlee, some shopping, lots of laughing, too much eating, and a lot of play time with the nieces and nephews.



The "VaughnThomDragonman" family.